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Some Less Healthy Suggestions for Singles on Valentine’s

February 14, 2015

I am what you might call “actively single”. I generally feel pretty perky about my status, even with 14 February upon us. I consider the lack of a partner a necessary cut in these times of austerity. I mostly blame the mess we inherited from Labour.

A number of newspapers and magazines, however, have taken to publishing lists of healthy ways for singles to spend the day. They include delightful, therapist-approved suggestions such as, I kid you not, “take yourself out on a date”. Take myself out on a date… That’s their suggestion? That on the very day restaurants are filled to the brim with fawning couples, I should be in the midst of them having dinner alone. Which will, presumably, be followed by seducing yourself, spooning yourself, cooking yourself a romantic breakfast then promising to call yourself but bitterly disappointing yourself.

I have a counter-proposal for anyone who considers this to be the best route to mental health: Why don’t you skip the date altogether and just go &#!% yourself? I have compiled my own list of alternative suggestions:


1. Imagine that you are in a relationship with someone truly vile (like Mel Philips or Jeremy Clarkson) and you are, in fact, successfully hiding in order to avoid them.


2. Dress yourself in an adult diaper and run around the West End, chasing terrified couples with a real bow and real arrows.


3. Sit on the floor next to a coffee table, listening to Madame Butterfly, switching a table lamp on and off, rocking gently back and forth and muttering to yourself “I won’t be ignored, Dan”.


4. Walk into an expensive restaurant and identify a particularly annoying couple. Approach one of the two victims and say “I thought you were at a conference”. Meet their protestations with a thoroughly unconvincing “My apologies, I must be mistaken”. As you walk out, turn and mouth the words “CALL ME”.

5. Drink so much whiskey on the 13th that you do not wake up until the 15th. You may wish to refer to this as “Ballantine’s Day”.

6. Make a detailed spreadsheet of all the money you would have spent if you weren’t single (new outfit, dinner, gift, flowers, card). Use the money that you have saved on something constructive. Like a donation to Amnesty International. Or cake. I think mainly cake.


7. Go to Samoa, which is 12 hours behind, then hop on a plane to Fiji, which is 12 hours ahead. With carefully planned flights, you can avoid 14 February altogether and get a tan.

WARNING: If you’re thick enough to execute these suggestions, there is a good chance you may end up in prison, where dates will be – I am sure – plentiful. A win-win, really. Happy Valentine’s!


This piece first appear in the Huffington Post.

6 Comments leave one →
  1. February 14, 2015 2:38 pm

    Reblogged this on sdbast.

  2. Anna G permalink
    February 14, 2015 3:07 pm

    Brilliant. Love it. xx

  3. February 14, 2015 3:21 pm

    Reblogged this on a dog's breakfast and commented:
    Excellent suggestions!

  4. February 14, 2015 3:23 pm

    And just be happy with yourself ❤

  5. hektorsmum permalink
    February 15, 2015 12:32 pm

    Aww, you won’t be single forever, Just cannot believe that. Well my Valentines Evening was spent with the Hubby of nearly forty years nursing a sick Pug, funny how they know how to pick the time. So no restaurant for us. Loved the idea of hoping off the Fiji and annoying those loving couples.

  6. February 19, 2015 9:14 am

    This was hilarious, in a clever way, great piece of writing. Glad it’s too late for me to try any of these out…this year 🙂 Found you because I read your excellent piece in the guardian about ‘defensive’ architecture. Harula

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